Oct
Please give your opinion on this topic.
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Unless such a “child” is mentally or physically disabled or returned home temporarily due to failure of marriage or job, I consider it one more indication that we, as a whole, have displayed very poor parenting in the past couple decades, and have become pathological enablers.
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every family and parent is different when it comes to this. there comes a time when the adult “child” needs to leave. there are different scenarios though. these are tough times, it's hard to get started on your own these days.
i think if the adult “child” has a steady job, helps out with expenses in the home and is responsible, yet is trying to save some money to help for the future….staying at home with the parents isn't such a large deal, as long as the parents don't mind.
if the adult “child is lazy, irresponsible, won't get a job because everything has always been handed to them…then it's time the parent makes a decision to get them out of the house and on their own. how will they ever learn if everything is always provided for them. the only way to learn is to experience what it means to be responsible.
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Well, each person's situation is different, and without knowing anything about the situation I really can't give a really good answer. But I have the ability to state that I've met MANY adults who still live and home and have never been on their own, and they tend to be immature, and not really know how to deal with the real world.
I’m 26 and engaged to a 21-year-old. He still lives at home with his parents (I live there also). We appreciate all the help that his parents give us, but I worry that he doesn't really know what it's like in the real world, paying your own bills, etc. I've been on my own since I was 19, and can't even envision being my age and never having been on my own. But I DO know people like that.
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I just read an article that stated with the current economy, more and more adults are having to move home. I think as long as the adult children are contributing to the household and trying to get a jo it is perfectly acceptable. If they’re having their laundry done for them and getting their bed made that’s a problem.
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I think it's important for everyone to learn to be independent as an adult. I don't have a problem with adult kids living at home until they've completed their education and landed a job. I do think that they should strike out on their own at that point, though. There's nothing like the feeling of truly being free to live your own life. I think everyone should experience this before settling down into married life, etc.
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I moved at at 16 I am currently buying my first home, I am 21. I think it is crazy! I’ve some friends that are married(21 and 23) that just moved back home with the parents b/c they purchased a large 4 bedroom house….and I have some friends that are married(for several years now) and have children, that still live at home!! I would personally never live back at home, nor did I ever want to stay living at home when I was there!!! But it does work for some familys somehow!!
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My personal thought ……. If my kids decide to go to college, they are more than welcomed to stay in my home to help save money. I wouldn’t anticipate them to help pay bills as long as they respect my rules in my house! And stay a full time college student.
If they weren't trying to go to school, then I don't think I would allow them to slack around the home all the time!
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My oldest just turned 18, and lives here, BUT has to pay $100 rent/month, $200 if she drops her college classes.
We let her stay here so she has the ability to get a college education without it taking decades, having to work full-time PLUS just to barely make ends meet.. We charge her rent so she knows that now that she is the age of majority, NOTHING GETS HANDED TO YOU.
Someone recently pointed out to me that 18 doesn't make her an adult, just makes her becoming an adult. And I know for a fact, because it happened to me, that you never really know what it's like to be an adult til you’re completely away from your parent's home.
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im 22 and my fiance and i are planning our wedding. we are living with my parents to save more money than we would be able to living on our own. it has nothing to do with being lazy or anything like that, we just want to be able to save and POSITIVE we have the money we need before we go out and do our own thing. we do all our own cooking and laundry and keep our area of the home clean (finished side of the basement) so its not like we're freeloading or anything, we just are saving money so that when we DO move out, we dont get completly screwed out of doing anything extra with our money. and dont worry, we fully intend to be out before we are married
if its an adult kid living at home simply because he’s too lazy to move out and still expects his mom to do his own laundry, yeah, thats dumb
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My 2 brothers live with my mom and i think they should move out. I live with my husb and i am 20, my bros are 22 and 23 and dont pay rent! or bills! It pisses me off, unless they’re adults in school, and helping their parents with all the bills and rent then that isn't bad. But for those who a free ride, that is just wrong!
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how old are they? and if they’ve a job or anything like that i would think they need to get out of there, you cant be with mommy and daddy forever. and i think the parents need to do something
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With this outrageous economy it seems a lot of people are staying at home. If our economy was better I would state Move out! but since it sucks I say there’s probably less people on welfare because they’re staying with their parents.
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Sounds like my loser brother. Except he keeps getting kicked out and keeps giving a sob story to come back home.
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how old and are they going to school ? need more info to really say