Feb
I still spank my teenage sons. Apparently this is not normal.
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I occasionally get threatened with a spanking and I'm nearly 19. Lol, course I haven't had one since I was pry 14 or so, with the metal end of the belt. The “spankings” I get now are a joke and none are serious at all just a quick smack when I'm being annoying lol. No harm, just a joke.
Spankings ARE okay to an extent. Until they're 2, no spankings. Just time outs. Tell them they'll get a spanking on the butt when they're older than that. Keep using time outs and only use spankings when no other method works. Take toys away, give chores, etc.
At the age of your sons, they should just be grounded. Take electronics away (cell phones, computer, tv, video games, etc.). Give them extra chores (especially the ones they hate to do! like clean up after the animals, do dishes for two weeks, etc.). Spankings at that age are just pointless. It stings a tiny, but it means SO much less to the kid. When they're younger it makes a big difference because they look up to you and see you as their idol and they never wanna make you cry or injured, and it hurts parents to spank the kids. And the children see that.
At this age, however, they couldn't care less. They just know they're getting away with whatever they did with just a pathetic butt beating.
Find a new method if you're actually trying to punish them and send a message to them and getting a point across.
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Spanking isn’t normal at any age. You need to take some parenting classes. Time out corner for little ones and Chores for older ones.
Those teenage boys would be scrubbing toilets, washing windows and any other dirty jobs I could think of. Mine are grown with kids of their own and turned out to be loving and responsible adults.
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Age is irrelevant as long as they’ve the strength & balance to not get severely injured by it. (Like I would be afraid of giving a kid whiplash if I spanked their bottom the day they learned how to walk.)
I have an aunt who makes sure her son, who is grown and has kids of his own, knows that he isn't too old to be put over her knee! (Definitely not normal age wise. But if you knew my cousin - you would probably understand. … He's not really bad, but he definitely classifies as naughty!)
I think it varies by family. But I personally don't think I will be spanking any tushes before my kids reach 18 months (at that point it doesn't even injured because of pullups) or after they’re 8 or 9 years old.
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i quit spanking at about 5. it , in my experience, is very uneffective after that age.
the point if to punish/dicsipline right? so why do something as ineffective as spanking a teenager? actually, they probably like it. becuase it can't possibily injured them, and they would prefer get spanked and have the puinishment last for 10 seconds as opposed to grounded for their behavoir, for days.see what i mean?
i know my teens would jump for joy, if they could get away with just getting spanked for punishment, instead of the ipod, xbox and tv being taken away!
as far as a good smack in the mouth?? if they lose their mind, and become smart alec, disrespectful, they do get popped in the mouth. but, i actually have only had to do that once, and they learned real swift, its embarassing to get popped at wal-mart, and mom don't care where we are. a guy actually clapped when i smacked my daughter at wal-mart, she told me to shut-up. he said,and i quote “now thats a punishment that fits the crime!”
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No you still need to. That’s what's wrong with America today. Children think they are protected by law that when parents' spank them, then they have the ability to call 911. I got PUNCHED by my mother at the age of 16 because I smarted off to her in the store. Needless to state, I never did it again and that was 17 years ago. To today, I don't profanity or anything around my parents. My kids are 8 and 2 and I still lay into them when they get out of line. Not child abuse stuff but enough to let them know that daddy does not play.
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I think you do it cause they overact don`t worry though you will get over it one day,i feel bad for you though so i hope this helps!
Don`t get TOO mad at them there just teenage`s they probably learn it from other Teenager`s that get overacted
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that's considered very weird now days. spanking works when the child is very little. once they're old enough to comprehend, you can move on to more effective punishments. such as grounding or taking stuff away.
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Hellooooooo, that's defined in the criminal code as assault. I hope your children are smart enough to phone the police, you creep