Mar
I was just wondering because i was on myspace today and ran across an old "friend"… She was always popular… but she never took it in vain…I mean she was the sweetest person you could ever meet… she was homecoming queen head of the cheerleading squad… it was like she did everything…Now she's in college…and still going strong… sometimes i sit back and wonder why wasnt I like that… what about her made her that way and me this way… Is it from the way you are raised… Do encouragement from parents really make your life that much better…? I never really was encourage by my parents… if anything put down alot…. I need to know… because when I have children I want them to live there life to the fullest with no regrets(like myself)…
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Very well expressed … I have friends like that too (oh, yeah, and my older sister!) Though raised within the same family, she happened to be given an IQ test in first grade (back when they still did that), and tested at genius level. You would be surprised the amount of confidence my mother expressed in her growing up, as compared to myself or my younger siblings. While she is my best friend in life and I don't begrudge her any of her successes, I do sometimes wonder how things would be if I was treated with such confidence as a child. Even now, my mom 'gets nervous' when I'm driving, and not my sister, even though she's the one who rolled a vehicle with my mom in it — as well as other minor fender-benders.
So — do encourage your children!!! Treat them like they are capable, and expose them to many new experiences and social situations from the time they are young. They will grow up being less afraid, and ready to take on challenges. That is (one of) the keys to success & happiness in life…
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yes encouraging your child really does make life somewhat easier for them…it give them a since of hope…. make them feel they are able to accomplish something…and even when they dont just encourage them more…the worst possible thing a parent can do is put their child down after they have already failed at something..I know… I've been there…
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She does/is 'everything'?!
Is she spiritual? does she do volunteer work?
Does she help the elderly or animals?
help save the environment in any way?
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What I want to know is how two people raised by the same parents turn out so different??? I mean if encouragement makes all the difference then did they only favor one or what/???
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There's just so many variables. Environment, genetics, experiences, no two people are alike and they're not meant to be. Your friend is who she is, and you are who you are, and the parts of your life that were unpleasant or unwanted are just another part of what makes you the person you are.
I agree encouragement from parents goes a long way, and naturally you want your children to grow up feeling that sense of pride that you weren't given. You can use your negative experience for something positive-to make the lives of your children happier.
But ultimately, nobody can re-write the past, and you shouldn't want to because it's who you are now.
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Hi,
I am interested to offer you some advice.
There is nothing that can cause greater damage or destruction than "WORDS" especially from the father. If you conduct a survey, you will realized that most of the "problem youth" have been verbally abused by their parents. Though these parents meant no harm but they have "ignorantly" caused such damage. And they would continue to shout around, "why is my son so rebellious?" Is this a "Problem Youth" OR a "Problem Parent"?
I hope that you will not dwell in the realm of fear caused by your childhood or teenage experience. But learn about how to "treasure your children, discipline your children and build your children" that would make them a man of the future. I have five children and they have all grown with confidence and boldness (not proud).
I do not know whether you are a believer of the Bible or not. I have no right to tell you what you should choose or do BUT I would like to share with you one particular Bible Verse. It is taken from the Book of Deutronomy chapter 30 : 19 and God says, "I call Heaven and Earth this day to witness against you, that I have set befor you life and death, blessings and curses; therefore choose life that you and your children may live".
Therefore, we all are the "Product of Our Choices". Though I am a busy man but you may write to me at albertcmchai@yahoo.com.sg and I would be glad to reply you as long as you do not mind that my reply may takes a few days.
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First off you have to quit looking for things to make you happy and find the happiness within you. If you can not find the happiness with in you then it doesnt matter what you do you still will not be happy.
My parents encouraged my siblings and I to do whatever we wanted to do. I did play sports in scholl but for the most part I stayed to myself with a select group of friends. I was nice to all and could have been involved in more than I was but I was more concerned with grades and the future than being popular. I graduated, went to college, got a degree and got married. I became a stay at home mom and my husband runs his own company and I am very involved in the schools here and lots of volunteer work. Girls I went to school with that were the "popular" kids are now working 40 hours a week in marriages that they hate and have spoiled ungrateful kids running around and most of them hate their life. I love mine. They all have the smile plastered on their faces and seem happy to the entire world but when they finally admit it they arent happy they just decided to be content with what they have.
I tell my kids that it doesnt matter what they do or dont do only that they have fun and enjoy it while they are doing it. They can accomplish anything that they want as long as they realize they have to be happy within themselves first before anything else will matter. My parents drilled that in our heads and all 5 of us are happy in life.