Feb
I see kids run roughshod over their parents. When questioned, a lot of them say 'time out' doesn't work, so what can I do? I'm not allowed to spank like my parents did…and, I want my child to LIKE me…What do you think? Is the parenting many of us grew up with so bad? Do parents today have their hands tied?
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You don't have to just use time out or spanking. There are many ways of disciplining a child and teaching them right from wrong. If time outs don't work for your child, find something that gets through to them. You know your own child best, and you know what will make them think about their actions and change their behaviour when they need to.
I honestly don't think parents have their hands tied, no. I don't believe there has been a documented case yet of a parent going to prison for smacking a child's bottom, or grounding them. That is not the purpose of child protection laws, and to be honest I think it's just become an excuse now for a lot of parents who don't really want to discipline.
I don't want my children to like me, I want them to love and respect me and to know that they are loved and protected in return. I also want them to grow into well grounded adults who have developed a sense of right and wrong, and I believe that starts in the home.
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supernanny's on right now
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Nope, I'm never afraid to discipline my children. Spanked my daughter when she was 2 1/2 in a grocery store once…..Had a lady threaten to call CPS on me. So I quoted our state law on corporal punishment. Nowhere in the United States is it illegal to discipline your child with spanking within reason. I would never leave a bruise on my child, so I have nothing to worry about even if someone did call on me.
I have 10 years of experience in Early Intervention and many coworkers, employers, friends, and parents that would vouch that I am a good parent.
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Yes I think so. I don't think there is anything wrong with a spank on the bumb as a last resort but I don't do it because of todays society, you can't raise your kids the way you want to. It's sad but oh well. I dont think the way we were raised is so bad. I think my generation ( Im in my 20's) were better behaved than younger youth.
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No
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I know what you mean with all the `rules` these days it does make it hard.I think the way we were brought up made most of decient adults.I smack my kids and they definatly still love me.dont know what else to tell you but just thought id let you know that you`r not the only one thinking like this.
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My mom never did…when i got bad grades she beat the hell outta me with no mercy. After a parent/teacher conference we were headed home. As we pulled in the driveway i started crying i KNEW what i was in store for me when getting home. She didn't care….i still got a "whoopin" with a belt. I was in 3rd or 4th grade and i'll never forget that.
Some parents should be afraid.
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my dad is never afraid disipline us, well especially my step brother. he's beet the sh!t out of him before. and usually he always makes it up too us. by taking us out to eat or just whatever.
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If you are speaking of the US, most parents are just misinformed on spanking being illegal. In MOST states it is NOT. http://www.familyrightsassociation.com/i…
Spanking as a means of discipline, while not always, IS sometimes necessary. No, I am not afraid to discipline my children. Sometimes I use timeouts sometimes more is needed. It's not fun, it's just what needs done. Most parents who do spank find it difficult, personally I cry after every time I have to do it.
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Its pretty bad now. Parents cant disipline with spanking, "time out" seems to be the only accepted way now, which obviously does not work for some kids. and spanking is looked at by so many as "abuse" which is just silly to me.Kids are out of control, with the school killing, and rudeness. Its complete loss or respect.Teachers cant disipline, kids even talk back to cops and grandparents. But doesnt bother me, if i feel its deserved my kids will get a whop on the b utt, im not going to be stepped on by my own children, and they will be respectful to adults.
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my parents used to punish me by making me do housework and by not letting me have any of my favorite foods or sweets for a week, and no playing.
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I personally don't think the way we grew up was so bad. When I was a child my mom would spank me when i was bad,or miss behaved. And i think that help straighten me out. Or she would say. You can either have a spanking or be grounded you choose. If I said be grounded she would ask me,how long do i think i should be grounded. But she was the one to make the finale decision,on how long. But i think it helped me understand the reason why i was in trouble.
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I have never been afraid to discipline my son at any time. This is why parents are lossing control of their kids. You can discipline your kids, but you can't beat them.
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All children are different and some do need a spanking. But I have seen parents that don't spank their kids, but they abused them emotianally. I think a child understand that when they get a spank is for doing something wrong and you correct that child with a spanking that child recognises what he/she did wrong. A parent that loves a child will correct that child according to morals and values of the family.
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You can spank your child. You cannot beat your child or leave marks or bruises on you child.
sometimes spanking is just what they need.
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spank them!! my mother's rule of thumb was if it doesn't leave a mark. it's fine:
Result: my mother NEVER had to repeat herself
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I have had family services called on me and theres nothing they can do about you whipping your child as long as you do it on the behind,My step daughter mother ever tired to get us for whipping our daughter with the belt b/c she wouldn't listen,The JUDGE said next time she dont listen us a switch. I think whipping is necessary these days
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If timeout doesn't work, I wonder why they don't try something else. Do they really think that 'spanking' -or- 'timeout' are their only choices?
The parenting that I did grow up with did not involve spanking or timeouts, either. There were people in the past who were able to see that their choices of methods to teach their children were not actually limited to that.
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yes all the time
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I raised six kids the same way I was raised, with a switch or a belt. I wouldn't want to raise kids in today's society. I use the 1,2,3 Magic system on my grandkids and it works for the most part but I still have to resort to spanking sometimes. Good luck.
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Great question, CPS or DCFS from two different states
have never made a public acknowledgement of what
if any physical , corporal punishment that's excepted. Neither do states or federal laws regulate who can discipline.
This is not a simple yes or no issue. It needs more education and loads of people being honest. Routinely, parents say it does not work, and children echo that that spanking and whipping was ineffective.
Historically, it worked when parents were between the ages of 35 and 50 not 11 and 28. Thirty something year old parents are too busy to spend time whipping, or spanking and there children are too old.
This effects small children and young parents much more than anyone else. Take a look at who's doing the spanking, whipping and then decide.
RonnieLouise
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It's unfortunate parents have to worry about that now. My mom and dad regularly spanked me, but only when I needed it. I turned out okay. No wonder kids now act so spoiled and empowered!