Feb
I am very lucky and never needed to (and wouldn't anyway), but if someone did, I don't think I would have a problem with it (within reason), provding it makes the child a better person. Does it really work?
(Like I said before, I never would or have to, but is it a solution to something?)
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First of all.. it is not against the law to smack your children in this country.. it IS against the law to smack them hard enough, that it leaves a mark, which I think is fair enough.
I as a parent, have very rarely had to use this form of punishment with my children, having been lucky with using other forms, e.g. time out, and the 2 chances, third is a smack scenario!
I am not against smacking, as long as it is done for the right reason, not because you are frustrated with their behaviour. I don't believe it damages them, or sends out the wrong signal, if you warn them why you will do it, if they don't start behaving before hand, and if unfortunately you do have to smack them, you then sit down with them and discuss clearly why you did it.
What alot of people seem to think when someone admits they smack their child, that they are abusing them. Unfortunatley there are horrible people out there that do this, that is why the government bought in this law, but they are wise enough(for a change!!) to see that sometimes a light smack is justified!
I have 4 children between the ages of 4 - 13, they are all well adjusted kids, that don't flinch if I raise my hand (like abused children often do), they don't beat each other up(at least not often lol!), they are polite, well mannered(most of the time!) and I am very proud of them, and I have actually asked my eldest 2 (13 & 10) what they think of smacking…. they have actually said to me, that if I smack them they know they have deserved it, and rarely have they ever had to be smacked for the same thing again!
Let the thumbs down brigade begin now lol!
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Yes I would smack on the butt or hand NOT face. I don't hit that hard but there are times that a smack is the ONLY thing that works.
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I was smacked when I deserved it when I was younger and I learned not to do whatever I got smacked for alot faster than when I just got in trouble.
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no and i don't believe it solves anything. just my own personal opinion but each to their own.
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smack is a little extreme but i have given the pat on the hand or on the but
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I think a good time out would be more benificial. By smacking a child you are contradicting yourself and telling your child that its okay to hit when you are upset. Not cool!
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I do with my kids but smack them on the butt. But right now I am changing my ways. I am trying to do time out instead smacking them. I don't want to hit my kids anymore and I am trying everything to straighten out my kids they six and three. I have hardly no problems with my three year like I do with my six year old. Now I am starting the time out and stop the smacking them on the bottoms…
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All you parents with your holier than thou halo. seriously! I was smacked when I was a kid and looking back now I deserved every single one of them. I actually wished that my mother would have been a little more strict with me.
I is ok to get your but beat. It will not kill you!
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Hitting a child is humiliating. I does not work. There are much better ways to reinforce good behavior. When you hit, you are reinforcing bad behavior with bad behavior. Confusing don't you think. Screaming and yelling also does not work as well as a calm voice. Try it . You would be surprised at how much better a child will listen when you talk calmly. I was a VERY strict parent. Lots of rules and if you broke them you had consequences. Consistency is key. If you say it you better mean it EVERY time. I am very proud of my adult children, all in their 30's, all successful. I still have a teenager at home and parent her no differently.
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NOOOOOOOOOO! It can really hurt the child i know someone whose child had to get surgery b/c the baby sitter smacked the kid! absolutely not!
but maybe just a little hit on the *** but dont do it anywhere else. and it doesnt work actually it just makes the child feel insecure and talking really is the best solution (but u need proof too)
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i wouldnt use the word smack because that usually pertains to their face but yes i do spank my kids only when they really get outta control!!!!
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In the UK it does not really matter whether you consider it ok or not, you are not allowed to smack your child. It is against the law, if you do so, you could be fined or sent to prison.
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there is nothing wrong with spanking your child when its needed but it is not necessary to hit them hard, and you should never hit them in the face, i think timeout works better, sitting still drives kids crazy
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sometimes but after that i will talk to her or he so that the child knows their fault and they wont do it again.
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i do smack but only on a very rare occasion and always on the bottom,i was smacked as a child when needed and it never done me any harm,sometimes with my kids its the only thing that works but as i said only very rarely.and i always feel realy bad afterwards it hurts me more than them.
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No only when they ask for it.
You bend them over your knee then smack them hard but nothing else.
Hope this helps,
james
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No, I didn't smack mine, albeit at times felt like it, but did not as it would be just me venting frustration. From the time mine were very young they had clear sanctions - action meant consequence - such as removal of toys, denial of an activity (i.e. TV, an outing to the park etc), time out in bedroom and so on. The thing I learned was to respond immediately and be consistent. Children soon learn that they can wear you down, make you give in etc if you don't stick to what you have said or expect. Parents see 'giving in' as the easier option, but in my experience such an attitude by parents tends to mean that they have the most unruly children. Find things that really matter to your child, and threaten removal if behaviour isn't as you would want - then see it through. I also think talking and explaining to children why a pattern of behaviour is not acceptable goes along way to getting them to understand what is acceptable and not, and why. That all said, parenting is not easy - we can only do our best. We want to develop lovely, rounded children, which I believe we should do in a way which leads them to respect us as parents. A short, sharp tap on the hand is the most I would consider appropriate - particularly for potential danger situations. Better still though to find another way. Good luck, I am sure you will find ways to raise well rounded offspring of your own. The fact you are asking shows how much you care.
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working with young people i think if some of them were disciplined a little better in the home and in the school life could of been better for them and many people around them political correctness is all out of hand even the poor police can not do any thing so hence the hoodies yobs out of control youth
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Yes I think it does work. 'Spare the rod and spoil the child' is what I say. Discipline for children is required early on in life to avoid our kids of today becoming part of the violent, drunken, etc statistics for tomorrow.
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When i was growing up (i'm 34), my dad had an old work belt, it was about 1cm thick, and about 16" in length, he had a 3" slit at the top of it, and we (5 of us) used to get really whacked with it!, i recall one time that i was smacked about 10 times and then i lost count, my mum had to pull him off me!!! Needless to say my parents are now divorced and although I know that that kind of discipline is very very much frowned upon today and if i'd had the strength i'd have reported him for it, I do not think it has made me a bad person in anyway. However, i have 3 children and there is no way that I would ever ever punish them in the way that i was for wrong doing. I use the time out method with my 5 year old and with my 3 year old i take away his favourite toy for the day. Two different methods but both work effectively for each. I used the time out for my 3 year old for a bit, but it got to the stage where when he did something wrong he'd put himself on the step! so thats when i knew i needed to change tactics! My youngest is only 6 months and at the moment a look is enough to make him realise he has done wrong! I do not think that smacking (i.e., a firm pat on the butt) is wrong - each child is different, i do think smacking a child in public is wrong as it is so humiliating for the child, if my kids play up when i am out, for example in the supermarket, i just abandon the trolley next to a checkout, take them out to the car and go home! I can come back and do the shopping another time! I have done it a few times - i have even been given a pat on the back by some for doing it! The kids hate it when that happens because they know that they won't be getting their weekly sweet nor tv! 9 times out of 10 they behave when i go shopping.
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No !!!!!
a change in voice tone worked as my daughter was growing up !!!
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No, I'm not a piece of shiot.