Jun
I just started a wonderful job this day so my husband and I had to find someone to watch my son. We ended up asking my brother-in-law to watch him. Well when I got home I noticed that my son had a red mark on each cheek on his face. When I asked what happened my brother-in-law stated it was from my son's milk, which has never happened before. When I picked him up I noticed that his diaper was absolutely soaking wet like he hadn't been changed in a while. He was also crying for quite sometime as soon as he saw me which he has never done! (my son is 15 months) He has always been good with everyone that watches him, but I don't think my brother-in-law was treating him very well.
Should I quit my job and go back home to take care of him? What do you think?
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It sounds like something wrong is going on. I think you should find some one else to watch him and maybe have your husband use some of his vacation time and stay home with him while you search. If you cant decided between your husband and you who makes the most and who should stay home.
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If you feel your child isn't getting proper care, then that's your primary concern. I think your instincts and common sense should tell you that BIL isn’t appropriate to watch your son. Momdar can be pretty accurate.
I don't know what your alternatives are as far as child care. Is there an option for you to telecommute for a while as you work these issues out? Can you have a flexible schedule? Is there anyone else you can trust to watch baby? Do you attend a church, if so do you trust someone there to watch your son?
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It just depends on whether or not you really need the money or really want to work… I wouldn't let the brother-in-law watch him again though! Could you find a baby-sitter or a day care maybe??
EDIT: well, in that case, i would probably just stay home, at least until you can find someone who you rely on. It's scary to leave your child in the care of someone who doesn't treat them well, and probably not the ideal idea. Good luck!
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i would speak to the people at work. maybe they have the ability to advocate a sitter better than your bro in law. it sounds like he didn't do what he was supposed to with your son. poor baby. some jobs have daycare connections. small town or not, someone must be reliable in your area. how about an older woman instead of a young kid? housewives are also known to sit with children. check out all you can. if you need this job, keep it, if you don't, your son must come first.
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find someone else other than your brother in law, i always say NEVER HIRE FAMILY, even for babysitting…find somone you can trust, like an older aunt, or family friend but NEVER FAMILY, but also you need to do what you think is right.
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Hire a retired elderly lady to take care of your child. You brother-in-law is not the ideal person to take care of your son. Good luck!
Can you please help me.
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I'm not saying you’ve to go back home, but you do need to find a new sitter because your bil isn’t trustworthy. Poor baby! You need to get a nanny cam on whoever watches your son because you can’t trust anyone.
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Maybe your bro in law just doesnt know exactly what to do. Leave him a list of things to do- like how often to change a diaper and whatnot. Some guys just need total guidance with children.
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Your brother in law was neglecting him…if his diaper was SOAKING surely he would have noticed, and if he didn't think to check he shouldn't be watching him. I'd advocate you look for a good nanny/babysitter.
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Well if you doesnt wan to quit your job maybe you should look for a qualified baby sitter or suggest by someone.
I think that the ideal option.
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If i was you i wouldn't move i will keep on looking for babysiters and do the ideal thing for my baby
*good luck*
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you already know the answer find a qualified babysitter or stay home I'm disabled so i was able to watch all 6 of my grandchildren and it can get very frustrating to some people who have never done it maybe he seems like a good person but some people just cant handle kids DO NOT LET HIM WATCH HIM AGAIN OR SOME ONE SHOULD CALL CHILD WELFARE YOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AND SOMETIMES YOUR NOT LUCKY AND THAT CHILD COULD BE INJURED BADLY I THINK YOU WERE LUCKY PLEASE DONT LEAVE YOUR SON ALONE WITH HIM AGAIN
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Children need their moms. Unless it is an absolutely necessary reason to work, as in food vs. no food, you should stay at home with your son. You don't have to worry about things like this happening if you’re with him. This could happen with anyone you leave him with. Kids were given to moms to raise, if God wanted others to raise our kids, he would have just given them to someone else. Your son needs you. Now and for the rest of his life.
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i think you should begin depending on yourself to answer questions like this one. get some counseling.