Jun
ok the dad of my 4 month old daughter has only ever seen her once when she was 6 days old. he was very violent toward me while i was pregnant. his exuse is if he cant have me he dont want her is she superior off or should i be trying to get him to see her. i dont ever want to see her hurt like he hurt me! help
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i would rather no dad at all. my dad sexually assaulted me as an infant and he was 15 years old. he would abuse me in each shape and form. he's in jail and has been since he was 17.
i was taken away and put into care and was better off that way. i wish my mum had the courage to kick him out, so i could have lived with her but alas that didnt happen. so in retrospects i was superior off without both of them.
What I'm trying to state is; is that everyone is superior off without violence in their life. Especially when the violence is coming from someone she's meant to look up to.
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It is certainly easier not to contact the dad of your daughter esp that he has been violent towards you.
However, that doesn't mean that he would necessarily be violent towards her. Who knows, once he gets to know her, he may actually be a great dad.
My dad was pretty (physically) abusive towards me, but was never like that to my sister. She hated him anyway because of what he's done to me - and although I did forgive him and would want a relationship anyway, my sister would state that having no dad is better than having the one we’d.
I disagree.
If there is a chance I think each child should know their father.
You can give him one chance perhaps and see how it goes.
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No dad. The whole “growing up without a dad” thing is soooo overrated. You can't miss what you never had. Some day your baby girl will ask you about him and she'll be old enough that you can explain the circumstances, but that tiny girl won't ever forgive you for allowing a monster to live in the same home as her. The emotional trauma will ruin her and scar her for life. And then chances are, your maternal instincts would make you leave him anyway. It's okay to have minor daddy issues- or lack thereof, but an abusive parent is a whole other ball-park. One that I wouldn't wanna play in. Keep your baby girl away from him
Ideal of luck
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NO FATHER is superior than a violant one. have you watched the news lately, so many infants are killed or hurt by dads who cant control their tempers or handle them crying. I would never put my child in harms way.which it sounds like thats what her seeing him would do. instead give her a loving home with access to loving grand parents and who knows mabey some day mr right will come along and give her the daddy that you choose for her.
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No Father! If your child grows up around a violent dad she’s going to think that’s the way a relationship is supposed to be. You don't want someone treating her that way in the future. Trust me I know. I have been and am going through something similar. Feel free to i.m. or email me anytime if you need to talk. Take care of yourself and your tiny princess.
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No no no no no no no.
I had a violent father - my mom divorced him - I NEVER saw that side of him. But I think I would have grown up a different person if I had. EDITED to add: I never saw that side of him bc I NEVER saw him. I'm 31 & have seen him maybe 5 times.
My daughters dad was somewhat violent (crazy how I went down the same path, huh?) & I left him. He has been in & out of her life - no stability whatsoever. I wish I'd never told him she existed.
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NO FATHER. Because he could kill you or your child. He could kidnap one of you. But you can leave him and maybe some guy will come along who ADORES you and your daughter and wants to be happy and take care of you guys. I hope the next guy appreciates family a lot more! Good Luck
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no father at all i would state. if he’s willing to abuse you wihile you were pregnant, then he will have no shame in doing it now that your daughter is around.. he might even abuse her. he knew she was in your tummy, so what would be the difference? answer: there’s none.. he’s not fit..
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No Father! Because if a child grows up with someone always being violent towards them… It could cause emotional problems later on. Really.
And if she grows up and wonders why she never sees daddy, just make sure she knows why. That he’s not a good person and she is much better off without him.
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It is ideal that this man stay out of you and your daughters life. Legally, with proof of who the father is, you can get child support for your daughter.
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It is much better to have no dad than to have a violent one. If you’re concerned about your safety or your child's you need to contact the local police.
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it is way superior to have no father, than be in an abusive situation. i grew up without a father, and it was perfectly fine with me.
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trust me your baby is superior off with no father. my dad is violent and now im going to therapy at age 15. trust me, she'll thank you later. mabye not in her teen years, but in the end she’ll.
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i would have to state no father just as long as she has a uncle or grandpa. also you could get a good guy friend to be there for her but not as a father just some one to love her like one
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it would be better without dad violence in front of kids is not a good thing i know by experince grew up in a violent home and im going to see a thiripist at 23
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Well this ones a no brainer. Keep him as far away from her as humanly possible. If he was abusive, you should have a restraining order(I would). No dad is better then having an abusive sperm donor.
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No father is much superior than an abusive one. At the beginning he might only hit you but one day he may turn on your daughter
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Definitely No dad in this case. Bringing a violent man around your child is sooooooooooo bad. From what you've stated, he might get violent towards her. Keep him far away from her.
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I was raised in an violent household. Personally, I state no father is better than an abusive one.
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No father.
If she knew her father and he was violent to you and her she would probably wish she didn't know him.
Ideal of luck to you!!
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i think both is bad because either way, ur child is gonna be missing a dad figure in her life. bt if hes abusive u shud do wat u noe is best n keep him away 4m u guys
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no father
my grandpa was very violent to my mom and now my uncle won't even talk to either of his parents and my mom secretly hates hers
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NO!! Do NOT expose your daughter to a violent man! You’ll set her up for failure in future relationships!
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No dad.
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you answered your own question…..
“I don't ever want to see her hurt like he injured me.”
I think you know what you need to do.
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A child is better off with no dad if the parent is abusive.
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no father!!!!!!!!!
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a good dad is superior than no dad. find a good man. it may take time. take care.
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NEITHER
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i'd state no go, guys like that are trouble.. sorry about what happened.
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CURBSTOMP IT