Oct
I take mine everywhere except work. Sometimes my mother in law will offer to babysit, but I've seen her babysit. So I”d rather not unless its an emergency.
I’ve a friend who I don't understand. She tells me that I should take advantage of my mom in law and leave my children for the weekend. I would never do this just because I work full time and want to be with them as much as possible. Everytime I see her She doens't have her children with her. I always ask her where are they? SHe's like they’re at their grandma's..Its likethey are always there..and she goes out and celebrations till the next day. My husband wants me to leave my kids with his mom but I just don' t feel comfortable doing this. I don't comprehend how other people do it so often..
There have been times when I've taken them to music festivals and people tell me not to bring them but I dont' see a “no children allowed” sign so I take them anyway and sure enough there are always other kids there and they make friend..
Am a wrong for wanting to be a part of my kids life? They are 3 and 4 and they’ve been everywhere with me I've taken them to Vegas 2wice, Baja CA for vacation 2wice, Universal studios, seaworld, the zzoo, you name it if it's near SoCAl They’ve been there.
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Wow… I could have written this. :o) My MIL is the same way. Her home isn't the least bit baby proof and she watches tv or reads while the children are there so I only use her in an emergency.
I work all day and enjoy my weekends with my child to do things I don't get to do with her during the week. I do have my mother babysit on occasion so my hubby and I can have dates. Is there someone else you would trust to come stay at your home to stay with the children and babysit them so you and your hubby can have a weekend to yourselves? It is good for your marriage to do things without the kids. So while I understand you need to want to be there for things and spend time with them, they do need to have time without you to grow and learn.
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No I don't. She goes with me to run errands and to do things for her, but I also take her to my mother's some Fridays to spend the night so my husband and I can hit the town. For the most part, yes, but I also want her to be independent and not rely on Mom 24/7 because sometimes Mommy can't be there and I don't want her to shutdown.
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For the most part yes, but now that my oldest is 13 sometimes she wants to do things with friends on weekends and that's ok too. My husband and I try to get a “date night” in about once a month but besides that most things we do are family things.
I see no problem with wanting to like your kids while they’re young… they do grow so fast!!!
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Im like you. My baby is with me all the time, except work. Shes 10 months and Ive gone out 2 times with my SIL and my boyfriend stayed home with her. they are only little for so long, before you know it, they will be 13 and want nothing to do with mom, so Im gonna spend as much time with her as possible
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Everywhere except work and “certain” dr. apptments.
She always has a book with her and she’s 10 so she behaves herself.
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its great that u like spending time with ur children, and take advantage of it becuz it'll go by fast. ur a good mother for spending time with them
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uh…your kid will have problems when it comes time for leaving home even just to go to school.
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No, you’re not wrong for wanting to be a part of their life. I am a stay-at-home mom, so I do take my daughter everywhere I go, if her father isn't home from work. If he is, then I like to leave her home with him, especially to go grocery shopping, or to go out for a walk. My son is another story. Since I'm still pregnant, I’ve no choice but to take him with me, lol.
I do enjoy my “Mom and Dad's Weekends Away” though. It's a nice, refreshing, resting break. My daughter is an early riser and I have trouble getting comfortable, so days where my mom has her overnight or over a weekend are quite welcomed. I love being able to sleep in and catch up on rest.
Mostly, we leave our daughter with my mother so we can get things done that otherwise wouldn't, such as clean the house. It's unfair that one parent has to chase the 19 month old and make sure she doesn't destroy the house as the other cleans. Other times, we like to have a night out, which is usually once or twice a month. My mom will take her and we'll have a night to ourselves.
Generally, our daughter goes to my mom's at least twice a month, and she wants to. In fact, she never wants to come home. I can't say no to spending a night with Grandma.
But we do do things as a family. We go out to dinner as a family, kick a soccer ball around the home as a family, dance to music, take walks around the neighbourhood and go to the park.
It's very balanced, and that's the way we enjoy it.
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I'm and SAHM so they've been w/me for just about everything. Now that my youngest is in pre-school 3 days a wk for 3 hours, I'm able to go do errands w/out him and sometimes that's a blessing. They love being w/me for the most part but I have the ability to tell when they've had enough. When my husband and I do go out for a rare date, they seem to appreciate us more when we get back.
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well im a little diffrent my children can come with me when im in the mood to buckle unbuckle carseats. i have twins so i cant have both running around a store so no most of the time there home with a sitter my daughter ellie likes to go with me but i have to put my footdown because when im running my errands she’s to much to handle with ''i want'' ''give me'' and etc. my son likes to stay home with the sitter but im the kind of mother who cares about being with her children but also likes to get her errands and stuff done alone!
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I take her to many places, I try to have as much time as possible with her, but as Caramel Sundae said, children sometimes need independence to be able to build trust in themselves and know that “Mommy will not always be there 100% of the time”
This also prevents those melt-downs of when you try to leave and they don't want you to.
It also gives family members time to spend with the child.
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Literally anywhere we go is as a family. I'm an at home mother, never hired a sitter.
The only times I have been away was for a 10 hr outpatient surgery.
My labor with my son. (husband and daughter even slept at the hospital with me once in recovery)
I had my parents (before they were estranged) watch our daughter 2 times for business when we were finalizing the closing on our house. They were also the ones that came over and watched her for the 10 hrs I was in surgery. In that time they only changed her 1 time!!! Came home sore and out of it…to a tiny girl with a raw butt!! (worthless people, I swear)
Sometimes my husband will take just our daughter with him to run to the grocery store or Walmart…..if that counts. lol
We don't have any desire to go out without the children. They are only going to be tiny one time, we like to enjoy that time together as a family. I'll be 40, and he will be 45, when our yongest (30 weeks pregnant with today) turns 18. We’ll have plenty of time to run off and have fun once the kids are older and/or grown.
We are considering hiring a nanny to come with us on a little overnight cabin stay about 40 miles from the house…for our 5th wedding Anniversary next year. Haven't decided for sure if we will do that or not. If we did then she would have her own cabin to be with the kids in from about 7pm-7am. Thats about as far as we're willing to go. lol
I'm 22 this day….so I have a really hard time understanding this famous “me time”, everyone is so obsessed over. We planned our kids, and had them to be a family. We didn't want to live a single life, so we don't.
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It is good that you spend time with your kids, but remember you need time for yourself too, I am not saying to go run off, just each now and then go out by yourself or with your hubby..
My children spend a lot of time with their grandparents, but that isn't because I drop them off there. They see their grandparents about 2-3 times a week. My parents and my hubby's parents are really involved with our children's lives and my mom cares about having the kids over.. I have 3 kids that aren't in school and they pretty much go everywhere with me. Sometimes I'll get my mom to watch one or two of them while I run errands, sometimes my mother runs errands with me… but I don't work either, I think that if I worked full time then I wouldn't let my mom take my kids as often as she does! We’re always on outings like you’re… we've been to the zoo's, museums, beaches, ect…
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no, no, no. my kids have an astounding bond with me and i certainly don't take them everywhere with me. i need “me” time, even if it's doing the grocery shopping alone. this was the practice even when my kids were babies. it doesn't make me a bad parent by any means. i attend all my children's school functions. both my kids are straight A/honor roll students. we’ve dinner together each night. we go on family vacations. my kids are secure enough in themselves to discuss their problems with me. my best friend is a lot like you…and you were right…it ended up destroying their marriage. it was always about the kids with her and it was like she forgot she was married and her husband needed her too. her kids range from the ages of 7-14 and she's been so clingy to them their whole lives, they are starting to push her away. the 14 can't make rational decisions because her mom has always done it for her. the younger ones are starting down that same path.
my recommendation…take your mother-in-law up on the babysitting. it doesn't have to be all the time. once a month, even if it's just for a few hours, so you and your husband can go have a child-free dinner…or go see a motion picture that's not disney related or has animated characters. you've gotten do bogged down in being a mother, you've forgotten about yourself.
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Most of the time my son is w/me- we’ve so much fun! When I do go out he is in bed and don't even know that I am gone.
There have been times that I run to the store and my mother has watched him or my aunt, and its nice to go to the store and not purchase everything he wants- I definitely spend less:)
Lately- since his dad decided to get a girlfriend- I have to let him see him, so I find myself w/more time on my hands and I don't know what to do w/myself!!! I concur that I go to work during the week and that is my 'break' and want to be w/him most of the time. A lot of my friends leave their kids at the grandparents for weekends and I don't comprehend it! My son has only slept away from me for 1 night his entire life- and he was at my aunts home and he begged me to stay and it was only a few months ago! I hated it and went to get him first thing in the morning!!