Apr
My mother told me to stand up for myself if anybody messes with me, well ok that's exactly what I did. This girl called me gay, so I punched her in the face, I was standing up for myself like my mother told me to do. So when my mom found out about what I did, she got pissed, but why? I was just defending myself, I mean that girl called me gay.
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Hard as it is, as long as someone just uses bad words you have no business becoming violent. I know that words can injured more than a punch in the face, but still… We all have to strive to remain non-violent because otherwise this world would be ruled by those with the strongest arms. “Standing up for yourself” in that situation would have meant saying something back to that girl. “You are making a fool of yourself” might have been a good response.
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what your mother meant by defendnig yourself had nothing to do with being physical with another person. what did you solve by hitting her? you felt superior about yourself for hurting her… some good that did. it makes you as bad as her. your mother meant to use your words. not a new concept. as a nanny, i tell 3 year olds on a consistant basis to 'use your words' to resolve issues, or disagreements. if you alone weren’t able to verbally work things out, then find an adult who will help you. i know sometimes situations come up, and you feel there is no help, but think of it this way. if you are more apt to get in more trouble than the person who is pissing ou off, it's not worth your time and effort. tell them that too. nothing pisses off a bully more than someone who doesn't react to them. they’re seeking attention to feel better about themselves. when you don't give them anything to go on, they'll move on from you. trust me, we've all been there. but it goes back to the same old idea. communication.
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wow, i guess you'll comprehend when you're older. that’s not ok. you don’t hit girls. you don’t use violence. it's never the answer. she meant for you to stand up for yourself using your words! like, if she called you gay, and assuming you're a guy, you could be all “well that's not what your mama said last night!” or something. SOMETHING besides hitting!! please!
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Well in this case unless the girl used a force against you, you have no right to place your hands on her. That was a battery you committed. I’m sure you were upset but cooler heads always prevail. Next time just state ” WHY YES I AM VERY HAPPY, THANK YOU”
I cant quote the exact law but you can only defend yourself with the same force that you were attacked on. You cant punch someone cause they called you a name, you will be in a fight ALL your life. Live and learn then think b4 you thump!
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LOL Maybe she should have been clearer. I don't think that’s what she necessarily meant. She didn't want you to physically assault someone..you could go to jail for that. She was saying stand up for yourself verbally. She doesn't want you to get into a physical altercation. But if she hit you first that’s a different story then you have no choice but to defend yourself.
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Violence isn’t the answer.
Except when the question is stupid.
No I'm kidding. Hitting people can get you in lots of trouble. Standing up for yourself doesn't mean hitting people. It means defending your own personal set of values. I personally have no problem with gays, so my response would be something incredibly immature, such as “and you're straight!”
Look, just don't hit people, okay?
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“This girl called me gay, so I punched her in the face.”
That's so gay.
Seriously, why the need to hit her? If you hadn't, would that have meant she was right?
Defending yourself doesn't mean belting somebody just because they call you names. Harden up, Princess.
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That is NOT standing up for yourself.
Standing up for yourself is like saying, “stop..etc” or just walking away.
Ur lucky the principal wasnt involved your could have gotten suspended.
Try not to do that anymore.
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Yeah,I think your mom meant to defend yourself if you were physically threatened. Not to beat up someone for calling you a name. You way overreacted here. And taking your mom out of context won't get you out of this one.
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well, being called gay isn’t an assault, hitting people is.
Assault can get you in jail.
next time try saying “no I'm not” or if it's true “Yeah, so?”
note the difference in the jail time.
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because you're mean? maybe? if she called you a lesbian, that's the time you punch here, but gay? come on, you're a girl already. how can you be gay?
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I think that she meant you should defend yourself VERBALLY, not physically! And there's a massive difference between calling people names and punching them! It's disproportionate.
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Nowadays, everyone calls everyone gay…just bite your tongue and forget em….
As for you situation, u might of over reacted…But try telling your mom that your apology is truly sincere!
GOOD LUCK!!
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Theres a way to stand up for yourself without punching people.
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i wouldn’t have hit her unless she threw the first punch first just so you wouldnt get into as much trouble.
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Lol, probably because she's a mum and doesn't want her baby girl in fights
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lol ok it would of been better to walk away better person you
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youre mother got mad because you’re really gay…..
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You should've gone about it in a less violent way.. like speaking to her