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I looked on the computer, and says there is no legal dating age:
cmphttp://en.allexperts.com/q/Misc-Legal-21…
Dont I have the power to get a restraining order or something?
Cant I charge him with something, they go out and spend time together, i dont like it tho.
He blows her kisses, hugs her and tells her he loves her.
He takes her to the beach, the park, and the movies and mall.
She tells me.
What can i do?
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If they're having sex and you don't live in Vermont, then he's committing a crime. There may be laws against any kind of relationship. It depends on where you live.
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yes…that is statutory rape(if they are having sex)…he can go to jail for some time if you act on it… if they arent having sex…you can still confont the police about it…and im sure they will issue a restraining order…your daughter isnt 18…she is 13…she is no where near an adult…you need to do something about it
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call the police thats the best i cant think of…if they do anything sexually you can get a restraining order then
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I agree with an above answer. Contact the police and see what your rights are. That boy should be ashamed of himself.
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this is your punishment for having such liberal views and for being so stupid to believe the U.S. had anything to do with WTC
protect your daughter and put this person in jail, call the prosecutors office and tell them.
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I read your link and I suppose that's true if there's no sexual activity going on. But, if there is then yes, you have the right to charge him with something.
Another thing you could do: Forbid your daughter from seeing him. Plain and simple. She's thirteen! Tell her NO. No you may not spend time with him, talk on the phone, write letters, text, e-mail. Nothing. There's nothing wrong with that–in fact, in my opinion that would be the correct thing to do.
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YES you can easily do sumthin. next time he takes her out get him for kidnapping. if you dont know who this guy is then report your daughter missing, they will use amber alert.
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Go to the police and file charges against him! It is as simple as that.
Your daughter will be furious with you, but do it anyway. You would rather have her mad and not speaking to you than with a sicko!
Don't even consider NOT doing something! Being with this man will ruin her life and reputation.
Hope this helps!
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in most states, if one person is 18 or older and the other is under 18, the laws say "NO".
i would suggest visiting your local police department or calling a rape counciling hot line (usually listed in the information pages in the front of your phone book).
do not use full names, do not give anymore information than what they ask for. in these situations it is very easy to "talk" and then things begin to happen from the law enforcement side that you might not have intended.
either/both sources of information should provide you with enough information to make a correct decision based on your situation.
good luck!
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what's his address. post it on here along with his phone number…..go tell your story down at the local elks or moose lodge. women are allowed in there for free, you don't need a membership. this should maybe be handled the old fashion way. that dude needs to be uglyed up a little, then little girls won't think he's so cute and cool.
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tell ur daughter wat a petifile is and xplain her ur input in this dating
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hes not a man hes a pedophile, grown men dont "date" 13 year olds, and if you are allowing her to go out with him you are just about as guilty, a 13 year old is not old enough to date ANY body let alone a 20 year old "man".
shes 13, you dont have to let her do anything you dont want her doing, its not like shes going to be seeing him at school, you can cut all ties from him by keeping her home where a 13 year old belongs.if you allow her to stay at a friends house, check in with the other parent, make sure shes there,make sure you can trust them to make her STAY there. youre the parent, be one.
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Technically, yes, you do have the power to get a restraining order. He is a 20 year old man, you daughter is what they call a minor ( A person under 16 ) If you disapprove of their relationship, you have every right to end it. It is a form of pedophilia. What he is doing is grooming her. Although, to be honest, i recommend you think carefully before you take any action. I suggest that you talk to your daughter and let her know how you are feeling, see if you can get her to cut all ties with this man that way. If she is adamant that she loves him and he loves her, then perhaps you could come to a compromise. For example, she be allowed to see him, under your supervision, or her time with him is limited. When my little sister was that age, she got involved with a man in his 20s. My mum took the wrong approach and got the police involved. This resulted with my sister running away with him. You need to be firm, but fair. It is likely that in time, there relationship will fizzle out. I believe that, at that age, the more you object, the more determined they will be to prove you wrong. Make sure that your daughter is aware of the dangers and tell here how important it is to stay in a public place and not go off alone with this man, or to his house.
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You are this childs mother, you get to try and help her make good choices in life. I would be very thankful that your daughter feels close enough to you to tell you what is going on. Have you taken the time to meet this guy? If not, you should! Find out what his intentions are with your daughter, why he likes her, what they have in common, is he close to his family?
Hopefully they are not having sex, but that should also be addressed. You should try talking with your daughter about it. Try not to overwhelm her with all your questions though. She may become too upset and decide not to open up and let you in. It is likely that this is her first taste of love and although it is unlikely that they will end up together, she probably thinks so at this age. I remember being 14 and dating an 18 yr old. He told me he loved me and I thought we'd end up together. LOL anyway, there is a law that anyone over the age of 18 who has sex with a minor (which i believe is 16 and under) it is considered statutory rape. If it came to it and this was not someone you thought your daughter should be involved with and you could prove that they were having sex you could put him in jail for it. Hopefully you guys can work things out without things getting so drastic but from my own experience I know when I was threatened right away with "He is too old for you" I just snuck behind my mothers back to see him.
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Yes, next time he takes her out call the police and say he kidnapped her.
Kidnapping is defined as taking someone without consent. 13 year olds are not able to consent, and no one but their parents can give consent…Which you clearly aren't giving.
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You are the parent. If he takes her ANYWHERE without your permission, that would be unlawful even if she personally 'wants to go wih him'. He would be legally responsible, almost as though he kidnapped her. Depending on the state laws he may be charged with 'removing a child without the parent's consent'. At minimum, he would be charged as an adult 'corrupting a minor', for any kind of sexual contact (including affectionate hugs).
You could also get a restraining order on the basis of ANY physical contact thats not considered appropriate.
I would suggest getting the police involved, but merely having them issue a serious WARNING based on the facts initially. If he doesnt heed that warning then the police will be ready to act. The fact is that the young man simply needs to avoid her for another 3 years or he willl risk going to prison and having a sex offender tag for the rest of his life. Any such charge will inflict serious (and permanent) personal damage, even if the charge is withdrawn/dropped later on.
Understand that pressing charges is not the first option.
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With all that said, i would like you to also consider that the lawful age is only 3 years away. Your child is becoming an ADULT. She has to learn to make responsible decisions as an adult. You will need to gradually begin to trust her AND advise her considering HER PACE as an adolescent. Dont let the age of consent (or all the risks that may come BEFORE THAT) catch either of you off guard! Prepare her day by day. At this point ALL the most critical decisions are really hers FIRST…where to go…who to go with…what to do. You may only hear about it after the fact, so she needs to be educated to fend for herself.
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ask your daughter how she really feels about him,
if shes just using him to look cool or something make sure u get her to end it
but if shes happy with him let her be and keep a close eye on her
goodluck
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I don't know about getting the law involved at this point, but HELLO….. who is the parent here?! You can certainly forbid your daughter to see him. Of course she might try to lie and see him anyway, but you can keep tabs on her by checking up on where she says she's going to be at certain times. I she's not there you'll know shes up to something. My mom did that to me and my siblings once in a while and you know what, it worked. You can certainly ground her from leaving the house until you're sure she's not seeing him, and somehow get it into her head that seeing him is a huge mistake and he is not right in the head. You can even tell her that you will get the law involved if she doesnt stop seeing him (even if there isn't anything you can do now, just tell her that is anyway, it will scare her probably). Wake up and realize your role as parent and guardian. And obviously if she's telling you all this stuff about him so openly, she must not think it's bad, or else she would be hiding it from you.
And the answerer saying if she's happy to "let her be"?! That's the last thing you want to do, a 20yr old even desiring to date a 13 yr old is NOT NORMAL, they are on very different mental levels and obviously he is just trying to get sex- hopefully he hasn't already.
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There's actually a lot you can do. Go to court and tell them that you fear for your 13 year old daughter's safety and wish to get a restraining order against him.
This is not a "I can't do anything about it anymore" case. Your daughter is still a child, and you have every right to protect her for 20 year old MEN who are only trying to use her sooner or later…
good luck and be safe!
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you can start by cutting his d1ck off
is he a sicko
or what id shoot him in the goolies
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did you get hard posting this. some other douche posted the same link, i guess you added something just to mess with people
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it may be true about no federal laws in regards to dating however there are plenty of laws in every state banning sexual behavior with a minor especially with such an age difference between your daughter and him.
Also you are the parent…how on earth can you sit there and not forbid the contact. You are responsible for anything your child does until she is 18. Tell her no contact and enforce it. You have every right to take away phones, computer access, keys all of it. If she sneaks out behind your back then by all means embarass her and call it in as a runaway.
This guys is very likely grooming her for sexual encounters if it hasn't happened already. Be a parent and protect your child..of course that is assuming you don't want to be a grandparent anytime soon.
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Look up your local laws. Call your city police department. It will get problematic if they are having sex; however, I don't believe there are any laws in the nation against "dating". The only option you have is to prosecute him if he actually breaks any laws, so if he has sex with your daughter and that's illegal in Vermont (I don't know, but probably is), then you can charge him with rape.
But if that hasn't occurred, I think you can only advise your daughter against seeing this guy, and revoke privileges if she doesn't see it your way.
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you have a real fascination with preteen girls. you can get help for your pedophilia.
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She's 13……NOT 23!! Who's in charge?? Just stop her. Tell her NO!! I'm afraid you'll regret after. She's just a child.
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MY GOD!! DO SOMETHING
Definitely the guy has something on his mind
You should do something before its too late.
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It doesn't seem a real parent would even have to ask this question. 20 and 13 is off the charts on what it would take for me to flip out.
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Call the police!
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Tell him to quit coming over. If they have sex (even if she wants it), have him arrested for statutory rape. Get a restraining order if you have to.
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her dateind a 20 yaer old boy that is away to old for her . i wood put a stop to that
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Call the police and kick yourself in the butt for knowingly allowing that. Good job parent…not.