Oct
My son is 3 years old. He thinks he’s evil kanevil reincarnated and Houdini all in one. He doesn't listen. Even after disipline…he has NO FEAR of anything. He has an extremely HIGH pain tolerance, so he is constantly hurting himself. He’s in preschool in Special Ed right now for a speech delay and his sensory processing disorder.
But I want to know HOW WOULD YOU REACT IF YOUR CHILD…
(things he has ACTUALLY done!!)
*rode a barbie jeep down the slide in his bedroom (all you hear is Whoooosh, Crash, “I'm Okay!”)
*rode his tricycle down the back porch steps which the bottom step is less than 2 feet from my husbands shed-so he crashed into the doors…and says…I'm Okay!!
*Threw my van into neutral several times, and drive once-I had stepped out to ask someone if they would back up so I could back out, and next thing I know, my van is driving through my front yard and hits a telephone poll-he is laughing his little butt off the whole time, while I have horrible shakes as 2 of my neighbors come running to see if there’s anything I need help with
*Climbed on a little wooden table, and the leg broke, and he fell off and cut his head open on a car battery on the back porch (took 4 staples, and be darned if he didn't ENJOY himself!!)
There are SOOOOO many more things!! I wake up each morning, nearly fearing what he is going to pull this day…
-he can get out of his carseat
-and as for the van thing…I now Keep the Doors Locked at all times, the emergency break up, and the keys stay with me at all times
What would you do? I havent' really had any help, although he’s seeing a behavioral specialist, they have done nothing to actually HELP us.
Their sayings about him “He is an extremely overactive 3 year old child with sensory processing disorder and an extremely high pain tolerance-he needs CONSTANT Supervised Physical activity.”
Any ideas? I am already on Lamantrogine, Effexor- full dose, proprananol-as well as soooo many other meds…so I dont want to do anymore psychiatry or therapy for me!!! lol I already take a handful of pills in the morning and in the evening!!!
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I currently work with STC. Google it and you can get a superior understanding of it. But to sum it all down to a few sentences: It is a structured instruct class for autistic children (children with sensory issues are considered autistic); we’ve visual schedules and it is a constant schedule in a day. The teacher I work with have kids whom are very similar to yours. She follows the same STC structure and after a few months things calmed down as well as now life is pretty calm and good for her and her family.
I would seriously think of trying that. As far as him and his behavior, once as you get him on a set schedule involving physical activity and calm time. The discipline will improve; I would also look into getting CPI (crisis prevention and intervention) training. The class will show you how to restrain your son without hurting him or yourself. This practice would be helpful when he gets into a mood and though it sounds rough and maybe unnecessary it is for his own safety.
I am a mommy of a child whom requires several medications, so I am 100% behind my child's doctor, if the positives out weigh the negatives it is worth the drug. I hope this helped. If you need any help feel free to email me and I have the ability to set up a mock schedule for your son.
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Yikes! I agree with one of the other posters about getting him involved in outside-of-the-home activities. That way you'll get a much needed break & he can expend energy. He has the ability to also be enrolled in preschool & that could help as well. Hang in there!
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It sounds like the child needs better parenting. I'm not saying you are a bad parent but it just sounds like the child hasn't had sufficient and consistent discipline since day 1. Maybe he needs to get out of the home and go to a park and get his energy out. Get him into some play groups or karate or swimming, something like that in a controlled environment.
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You have to make sure that you are disciplining him consistently, EVERYTIME these things happen. Make sure the punishment is something that will be effective for him. It has to be something that will really affect him, like taking away a privilege that he really, really enjoys, whatever that may be. His privileges are your currency with him. When he misbehaves, take it away and don't give in no matter how much he whines or cries. Consistency in your discipline is the key. What does he like? His toys? Take away his favourites. Take all the toys out of his room so that it's not a fun place for him to go when you punish him. Take away his gaming privileges if he likes to play video games. No dessert. Whatever it is that he really, really wants and enjoys but is non-essential. No Television. No cartoons. Whatever. Only you know what will really be effective for him. Eventually he will start to get the message. But you must be consistent! Each time!
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I know you already know this but just go back through the house and look for items that could cause serious injury (again, I know you already know that) but there are sometimes things we don't associate w/being hazardous because we aren't used to a child that adventurous. I'm sorry that I don't have more advice other than to try and get as much energy out of him when you can and maybe invest in a really good outside playgym. Try and get yourself out of the home and doing something resting when you're able.
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wow - I am so sorry the only thing I can state is go over ground rules with him. And, explain that the things are not acceptable. You’ve to show him there’s a right way and a wrong way. And, that he needs to think before reacting. Explain to him it may seem fun at first. However, you are not going to accept this behavior any longer. You can't physically put yourself through anymore.