Jun
I'm so mad at myself for letting this happen. I'm a single mom. My daughter graduated this year. She was homecoming queen and class favorite. At the beginning of the year there were a few mothers that starting making plans for a graduation trip. It was going to be around $1500 per person. At first I didn't think I could afford it. But after my daughter had such a great year, I decided I would do what I had to so that she could go on the trip. Well there’s a man in my office that has always talked to me about my situation and how beautiful me and my daughter are and he offered to pay our way as a graduation gift to my daughter. We just got back this weekend and I went back to work today. I don't want him to think that I want to begin hanging out with him, so I'm trying to act appreciative but not too friendly. I keep telling myself that it was a gift to my daughter and I shouldn't feel guilty if I don't want to see him outside of office. Daughter already sent thank you note.
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if he offered, it was a gift, you don't owe him anything because you didn't ask. A easy “thank you” is good enough. Some people are just nice like that, they’re charitable and generous when they see someone who is in your situation. Don't worry about it, someone once told me to never look a gift horse in the eye. Consider it.
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You say he offered it as a gift to her for her graduation. If you believe he meant that and that he didn't have ulterior motives, than she (and you) received a very nice gift. If you felt he expected or was hoping for something in return and granted her to take the gift anyway, you stepped over the line.
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You should actually make plans to begin paying him back. If you two were not very friendly before, I'm sure that was his way of trying to get friendly. There's no way that you can act appreciative without him waiting for the perfect time to make his move. There is a chance that he might hold the trip over your head if you turn him down. Be careful!
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If he stated it was a gift consider it a gift dont get too friendly or he will think you want him, dont just lead him on because you feel bad! You owe him nothing gift means gift! PERIOD! Of course this would be coming from a man there way of thinking you OWE them something when they Give you something! so typical
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that wasn't wrong, though if you led him on purposely that would be a bit bad, but it was a gift and he took that chance of whether a relationship would start or not so don't beat yourself up.
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no it was not bad of you, it was a gift to your daughter and you dont have any obligation to him for it.
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Wow, my guess is that he felt it was going somewhere or he wouldnt have done that. If you led him on then yes that was bad of you.
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well….i wouldnt have done it. if you dont want to be “friends” with the guy (which i guess means you dont really like him) you should not have accepted the gift. jmo
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It sounds fine to me and the end.
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It was a nice gesture, but you have to be careful of men bearing gifts…they usually want more.
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well I'm a firm believer that most people don't do things without some sort of strings attached. If he was a casual friend, then I am sure he’d intentions in mind as that was an overly generous gift. This doesn't mean that you're obligated to go out with him, but you shouldn't get on your high horse about him expecting anything after accepting so much money from a practical stranger. I personally would not have taken the money. If you feel indebted to him, I would recommend that you think about slowly paying him back. A gift is nice, but $1500?? that is more than just a gift to a coworker.