Jun
i posted a question previously about my friend not using car seats on her babies (5 months, 1 and 5). i ended up bringing up that i had noticed the kids weren't in child seats when i saw them in the automobile. she told me they didn't have them. i told her that if she needed some there was a center down the road that gave them to families who need them. she told me they didn't need one!
how do i respond? i can't believe she doesn't think a 5 month old doesn't need a vehicle seat. do i continue being polite or what do i do? this really pisses me off.
that baby is an infant! she’ll fly the farthest in a wreck and ALL of those children need a safety restraint. the five year old is tiny for her age and wieghs like 30 to 35 pounds.
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I think you should definitely do something. I just know if it was me it would be eating at my conscience, especially if something happened to those kids. If i were in that situation, i would pick up the automobile seats for her, either from the center you spoke of or from Freecycle.com (a yahoo group). and i would just give them to her and tell her that you’re very concerned,maybe remind her of the risks? Then if she still did not use them i would call someone, because those kids are defenseless, and it really frustrates me when parents mistreat these children who can not make decisions for themselves, and all they have to rely on are their parents to take care of them and make the right choices. You may possibly lose a friend out of it, which is not fun, but what kind of person does not care about the safety of their child?
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What state are you in? Is it mandatory in ALL states for children to be in car seats?
I'm in California, and it IS mandatory here.
I know a family who didn't have their 12 month girl in a carseat. The flipped the truck and the tiny girls flew out the back window and was crushed by the truck. The driver went to jail for a manslaughter charge, the mom (passenger) went to prison, and the sibling that survived is being raised by her grandparents. She was 3 years old at the time and still speaks about her baby sister who went to heaven. She used to have nightmares about the crash.
Do something before it's too late.
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If your friend is so ignorant of the dangers posed by not correctly restraining a child in a car then you should report her.
I know it sounds drastic but the consequences of a child being hurt or dying because of inaction is too great.
how would you live with yourself if something happened and you did nothing.
talk to your friend and explain how worried you are about the situation.
Do they love their kids enough to protect them?
Good Luck
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YIKES!! What in the H*** is this girl thinking?? I’m 100% positive that you need to contact the local sheriff department or even CPS. This is a complete and total disregard for the safety of her kids and is neglect to state the least. The very idea that seats are available to her FREE and she continues to put their life in jeopardy makes me sick to my stomach. It's up to you because I can't even imagine if something happened to those babies and you didn't make the call. You shouldn't have that responsibility but I guess you're their only hope.
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calmly sit down and speak to her or talk to the husband…. also go get thrift store carseats and set them down on her porch….
my sister was 4 and wasn’t buckled in a friend's car, went through the windshield and died instantly on the spot… i watched my baby sister die… don't let ANYTHING happen to those kids….
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It's completely illegal. You can't even leave a hospital without having a car seat so I don't know how she can't have one. I'd call the police if she went so far as to state she “doesn't need one.”
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thats illegal call child protective services
children that young NEED to be in vehicle seats
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Why don't you mind your own business.
You've told her already and that’s all you can do!
And for people screaming ''call CPS'' - don't you think they’ve anything superior to do??!!
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shes probably embarressed to go 2 that center cuz she probably feels defensive and she can support her children but it is dangerous u should explain how hazardous and ask her y she feels she doesnt need 1
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id tell her to do what is ideal for her children, its not what she wants its what they need!
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im sorry to say this but maybe you should bring some one else in to this like CPS or the cops because she must not really care bout her kids if she wont do any thing to protect them
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you can get her one as a gift and maybe this would be an incentive for her to get the others on her own…
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dont ignore this, its perilous, call child protective services, they’ll have a speak with her
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Unfortunatly the only thin you can do is a report to the cops (they can leave your name out of it) or CPS and they’ll scare her enough hopefully to value her kids more than that. I know I had to report my cousin because she didn't want to bother with a carseat and put her 9 month old in a booster seat with no back just using a lapbelt. The cops gave her a ticket for child endangerment and wouldn't let her leave the scene without a say approved infant seat for him and she had to go to court and attend parenting classes. It may do your friend some good to be reported soon.
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I really don't think there's much you can do. She knows how you feel. What you can't do is ride in the vehicle with her unless she puts them in a car seat because you can be fined along with her for not having them in safety seats. The monetary fines are quite high when caught if children aren't properly strapped in, but the highest price will be paid with the life of one or more of her kids when she gets in a vehicle accident. Speak with someone at your local police or fire station. Maybe there's a film they have the ability to advise for you to watch. If so, invite your friend over for a motion picture night.