Jun
you know like if you’re out or something and you see or hear something and you can't take it anymore or something is so cute YOU HAD to say something !
about 2 months ago I was in the consignment shop, so Im shopping right and this lady comes strolling in with 2 children and her friend with 3 kids. The ladies children begin acting up and running wild and the moms begin saying if you dont stop we’ll leave( now the shop has an area with movies and toys but do they put them over there ? NOOOOOOOOOOOOO ) finally after 10 minutes of hearing If you dont stop it we are leaving,
I stated, ” GEEE are you really gonna leave ? cause im fatigued of hearing you threaten your children. If YOU actually did what you stated you would do , they would listen ! “
That’s THE ONE thing I can’t stand, is hearing parents constantly threaten their kids, JUST DO IT, mine haven't died from it yet
The women left the store and the clerks were like thank GOD, that was annoying !
so what have you said lately ? lol
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I saw a woman shopping with her elderly mom and her teenaged son. He was so obnoxious and belittling to the two women, that he could be heard an aisle over. I just thought to myself that the kid needed a good backhand to the mouth or left home alone.
Well, I continue shopping and it seems as though this trio was following me on each aisle. The kid was growing more and more impatient with his mother and g-mom that he was being really, really nasty. 'You guys make me sick. You're so slow. Come on, Granny, get the lead out. You're holding up progress!' I had just about enough of the kid b/c everywhere I went, he was just on and on and on….
As I rounded the corner to the meat department, there they were. I had only taken a couple of steps toward the ground beef and this kid KICKS HIS MOM IN THE REAR!
She was mortified and the grandma was so fatigued of fighting with this kid she just dropped her head.
I might have been wrong, but I told the mother 'Kick his *** back!' She was so ashamed of his behavior that all she could do was nod.
She's let this kid get so out of hand that he physically assaulted her!
I wanted to take my own foot and give him a taste of gym shoe to the ***, but he wasn't mine to disipline.
You are completely in the right not to be disturbed by rotten kids. If they get away with it in public, it just goes to show that there isn't a whole hell of a lot of disipline at the home.
Mine know that I’ll rock their worlds if I’ve to call their name more than twice. I’ll lay down the hammer on that backside and the message is clear: cut up, get your butt whupped.
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Before I became a mother myself, I told my ideal friend that she needed to take responsibility for her son and quit leaving him when anyone and everybody. Nonetheless we ended up in a fight over all of it and I ended up having her arrested. But about 4 months later we made up and are ideal friends and she quit leaving her son all the time.
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I'm with Meggy there. But I told a friend of ours to stop screaming at his child so much. That he looked angry to the kid all the time and maybe the kid would behave better if he took a different approach. I did that because the background of trust with my friend is there. he'd know I'm doing it out of genuine care for him and his kid.
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I told someone their kid was a brat and not to come visit no more if she brought the brat over. He slapped my 4 year old and took her doll and tore it apart. He's 8 btw and does stuff like that all the time. She laughs about it.
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I was in a retail store once, and there was a woman with a little girl about 4 years old. The girl wasn't really being that bad, she was doing the “mommy, mommy, mommy” thing and getting no reaction from her mother until the woman grabbed her by the arm, picked her up to face level (by one arm) and slapped her hard across the face.
I had never and have not since said anything to a parent, but I marched over there and laid into the woman telling her that child abuse was unacceptable and that I would be taking her license plate number down and reporting her to the say and she should be ashamed of herself for treating her child that way. Then I told the little girl that she didn't deserve to be treated that way - I followed through on the threat as well. My hope is that even if the little girl wasn't taken away that hearing from a stranger that her mom was wrong made some difference to her, and helped her realize that it really wasn't ok.
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I usually only offer opinion now if I'm asked, as i have done a very similar thing in the past to you.
Threatening kids and not following through is giving them mixed signals and giving them permission to run riot over you. I hear parents saying “if you don't do this” “this is going to happen” and NEVER does! Everyone has consequences for actions, how are we to instruct our children this with empty threats. As an adult if you don't perform at work or you get in trouble with the law there ARE consequences.
My children are told once and that's it, i know it sounds mean, but hey my kids my choice and I'm sure they will respect me for it. I sure respect my parents for it.
As for telling your friends that they’re hopeless at parenting? DONT and for strangers? DONT just leave it walk away and thank the lord that you wont be cleaning up the mess later in life. Those tiny DARLINGS turn into teenagers then ADULTS!
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I usually don't butt in when it comes to other people's kids, but I'll tell you about one case in which it was necessary.
I was leaving the mall with my son (18 months old at the time) after running a few errands one morning. We were passing the area where the coin - operated kiddie rides are when I heard a woman state to her son (about three years old), “Keep an eye on her, and I'll be right back.” She not only left her toddler son, but she expected him to keep an eye on his infant sister, who was sleeping in her stroller! The woman walked a good 10 stores down the mall to use the ATM, her back to the kids the entire time. I of course stood there and kept an eye on the children until she came back over 5 minutes later. I really gave her an ear full, and let her know that if I had wanted to, I could have had both of her kids in my automobile and been heading out of the state before she even knew they were missing. She was very defensive at first, but then acted sheepish. I was pretty harsh on her, but I have to say she deserved it. It was a matter of safety, and she showed a terrible lack of judgment.
As I said, I generally bite my tongue when I see parents do something with which I disagree. Most of the time, it's none of my business. However, there are exceptions to every rule!
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I don't think it was your place to say anything at all!
You can parent your kids all you want, but it is none of your buisness how someone else chooses to parent their kids.