Apr
Ok.. I know I'm going to get a lot of hate comments with this question.
I want to have a baby at a young age.
I'm almost 17 and I've been with my boyfriend for little more than 2 years. We love each other so much. He thinks we should wait until we're at least in college.
I love children. I babysit a 5 week old baby for 18 hours on weekends. If I were to have a baby soon, I'd definitely have enough time for him/her besides school. My GPA is 3.7 and I like school. I've got most of my future planned out (graduate ISU for architecture and join National Guard out of high school).
My only problem, I'd probably not be very financially stable. I’ve a job at Menards and Toys “R” Us right now.
Also, sorry if I'm rambling.
Please help me decide what to do. I like to have things planned out.
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It sounds like you have great plans for your life. If you have a baby soon, those plans will be at least partly put on hold.
High school is pretty easy compared to college (yes,even college prep courses); you might have time to do all your school work and care for a baby now, but in college you'll need a LOT more time for studying.
If you join the National Guard, you might have to go away for weeks or months at a time for training or emergency service. Could you leave a young child that long?
No matter what you do for a living, you will have to work a lot of hours to support your child. Do you want to send him/her to day care that much?
And keep in mind that a 5 week old baby is actually REALLY easy compared to any other age. The older s/he gets, the less s/he will sleep and the more s/he will need to be entertained and played with. This is not a choice; it is essential for healthy development. You’ll spend the first 2-3 years doing more and more “hands on” care.
After that, your child will need to be educated, their talents and skills will need to be developed, s/he will need a social life, and s/he may have health or learning issues that’ll need to be dealt with. The level of involvement only gets higher as they grow. Remember that this is a lifelong commitment that will change you forever.
You aren't ready for that now. Go to college, join the Guard, discover yourself, and grow up for a few more years. Then if you still crave a baby, you will be in a much superior position to care about and raise it properly.
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You can have everything planned out and still never feel ready for a baby.
I had mine “young” (24) and I think there are pros and cons to it. Babysitting is a hell of a lot different then actually having a kid and it can become very stressful.
What I would do is wait until you’re out of college, since having a child will mean you both might have to drop out for a while. At least then you two will still know if being together is a good idea.
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you need to be financially sorted before you do anything, its bloody pricey having kids!!
wait until you have a good income so you get a good maternity pay.
otherwise you really will struggle
travel the world have a life, babies can wait.
if you love eachother and you plan to be together you’ve loads of time to have kids in the future!
when you can give the kid the best upbringing you possibly can.
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Make sure you got away to pay for it. Also, do you really want to work and go to school and think you’ll have time to give a child what they need. I wouldn't.
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Honestly I think your boyfriend is right and you should wait to have children. You have plenty of time so what’s the rush? You should just focus on your schooling and your young life right now and that's that. Wait a few years at least and then begin having children. As experienced as you might think you’re….you’re not going to be able to give the baby back..yeah you may have had a baby for 18 hours but try having it for 24/7…it's really not all fun and games. You don't want to make the mistake of getting pregnant this year hun…trust me! Being financially stable is also very important with having a baby. You NEED to have money to support the baby. Formula is high-priced and the baby does eat a lot in the beginning of the formula….diapers are pricey, clothing, crib, bibs, and all the other tiny things you need. I would think about it really strong before doing anything! I state wait another two years-three years at least. Take care and hope I helped.
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I’m wondering if you’re a troll. How can you’ve a job at Menards, a job at Toys “R” Us, and babysit for 18 hours on weekends? All that, plus a 3.7 GPA? I really doubt that. But let's state you’re legit. The architecture program is way too intensive to have a child and actually be able to complete in a reasonable time frame. And you want to join the National Guard too? I assume that would be to pay for college, but that's one weekend a month and two weeks in the summer. No baby for you.