Feb
I just had my second miscarriage today. I'm only 6 weeks along. I lost my last pregnancy as well in January of 2008.
I have two living children. I never had any problems with them. In fact, I used to get pregnant insanely easily. I never had a problem becoming pregnant until my first miscarriage.
What can cause repeated miscarriages after the birth of healthy kids? I'm so upset. I'm only 28 years old. I've wanted this baby forever. Why is it that there are so many rotten moms out there who have as many as they want and I can't have another? I pray and feel like I'm being ignored.
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These feelings are sooo normal! I remember them like yesterday.
I had my first 3 children in very swift succession…… number 2 and 3 weren't even planned, that's how easily I fell in. When we were trying for our 4th child, we’d 4 devastating miscarriages, including twins, over the next 2 years then suffered infertility for another 3 years.
I went trough those terrible feeling of “why me?, what did I do wrong?, will it ever happen?, I just want a baby… is that so much to ask?, That nasty woman has a baby… that should be me… I'm nicer.” They seem so strange now, but at the time, you think these things because it's just so unfair.
When I fell in for the 8th time (after the “infertile period”), we had “threatened” mc so I was unbelievably nervous again and was obsessive about the welfare of the baby even right up to the birth.
When he was born healthy we were so relieved the worrying was over but the obsession continued and I found constantly checking on him and never letting anyone else watch him, I couldn't help it. I had “post traumatic stress induced obsessive compulsive disorder”. (say that 5 times fast. LOL)
When he was 2.5 years old we had another unexpected pregnancy resulting in another healthy baby, reasonably problem free.
Despite all the worry and problems, there was never a reason for the mc's and it simply resolved itself along with all the problems it created.
We go through bad patches for no apparent reason and it's not a punishment or unanswered prayers… It's not fair, just life testing us.
There is hope after repeat mc. I hope my experience helps you.
I wish you all the luck it the world.
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'Why is it that there are so many rotten mothers out there who have as many as they want and I can't have another?'
I ask the same thing everyday. I’ve had 2 losses but not consecutively. My aunt however had an infant son that passed away and then 5 miscarriages before she finally had a healthy daughter and then she has another healthy daughter. It is possible and I hope you get to have another child that you want.
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it will happen for you again hun just keep trying although i comprehend the dissappointment is heartbreaking i had 2 m/c in a row last year 10wks and 6wks but i am pregnant again now and things are going good i have 6 lovely children but for every healthy kid i have had i have had a m/c to match fingers x the next time for you will be the sticky one
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Im sorry for your loses! I know how you feel, I had a miscarriage in January 2008 also. I know what you mean about woman who dont even want children and get pregnant, It seems like our time will never come. But God has a plan for all of us and remember one day you’ll be blessed with another baby!
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I've had about 4 miscarriages and now I'm 30 weeks pregnant and so far everything is good. I dont see why you wouldn't have a healthy baby.