May
before you state anything derogatory, i am 17 years old and have thought about it for a long time and i've done my research on them.
the thing is, is that even though i've done all of that and i'm even willing to pay the 50$, i'm still not sure that my mom will go for it. if she did i would be VERY surprised. i just would like some advice on how to bring it up and what i should say to convince her that i should get it. thank you in advance.
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The thing is that parents don't like to see 'damage' being done to their kids - it's a protective thing. So you’ve to convince her that you are not simply mutilating yourself for the sake of fashion. It's gonna be a tough row to hoe (that's an old-fashioned saying, meaning it's probably going to be an uphill battle). You’re going to have to approach this keeping her point of view in mind.
At 17, I think you’re probably mature enough to make a decision like this for yourself. But anyway . . . First, tell her that you want to discuss it with her because you do not want to be doing things behind her back. She ought to respect your honesty, it validates your maturity. Tell her that you’re willing to respect whatever decision she makes, so long as she hears you out. Then, second, I would have some printed info on hand about the low incidence of infection and also printed information on the place you’re going to have it done. Make sure the place you are going to is clean & has a great reputation. This way she’ll see that you did your research, more points for you! In addition, you may want to show her some tasteful fashion shots of models with piercings, by tasteful, I mean pants not riding really low (this is what mothers like to see). Always good to remind you mother, (in a polite way that's not going to make her feel really old) that times change, and as times change, so do fashions. Also remind her, there are way worse places that people get piercings and reassure her that you are not at all interested in getting anything else pierced (even if that's your plan, now isn’t the time to tell her).
In your discussion with her, always be smiling, positive and talk with self-assuredness. Whatever you do, don’t get whiney (that's going to be an immediate deal-breaker). You want her to know that you’re being adult & mature about this. So stay positive, cause it's hard for parents to accept that their kids are growing up and not little anymore.
I hope this helps you.
Good luck!
Have a great day, HK
Other people made some good points too. However, I disagree about bringing it up at dinner. I think it's superior to have a sit-down, mother/daughter speak about it. Mothers love it when their kids come to them for advice. So make it a personal conversation, just the 2 of you.
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I would sit down and talk to her about it and act like an adult as u do so. I would let her know everything u found out about it. I was 12 when I got mine done…I know very young but my mom had hers done too so she knew a lot about it. Its not that bad especially sense it is hidden under ur clothes most of the time. i would deff. go for it and bring up the subject but if she says no don't go stomping away like a little kid because then shes not gunna think ur mature enough for it, But I would catch her before she says no… If she looks like shes about to state no I would state can you at least consider it and do some search on the issue before it is a defiant no. Good luck I hope everything works out!!:-)
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You won't be able to convince her. This one you'll have to earn somehow. Bargain, it's the only way. Just state
Mom, I've really wanted to get my belly button pierced for a long time and I know you won't be okay with it but I wanted to see if there was something I could do to earn it. Like if I clean the home for a month or make perfect grades (more effective when school is in).
Let her know it's important enough to you that you're willing to do something to earn it. Then you'll get the “well if it means that much” permission.
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Make the following points:
It won't be seen by future employers
It won't be seen by college admissions committees
It's covered by clothes 99% of the time
Risk of infection is low if properly cared for
Try pushing the “it will make me feel good about myself” angle
Oh, and if there's some reason why you can't wait until you turn 18 (a few months) be sure to bring that up too.
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How old do you’ve to be to get it done where you’re?
I'm not a crazy rebelious girl but i went on holiday and got mine done…didn't show my mum til i got back. Just did the same with my tattoo.
I'm not suggesting you do it behind her back, but at the end of the day it is your body not hers. Its not visible and you can take it out if you ever change your mind so theres not too much to worry about.
Try and be adult about it-tell her nicely that you plan on getting it done-maybe ask her if she wants to come with you? I wouldnt worry too much about trying to convince her-just explain that you want it and dont get upset and angry if she objects.Just say calmly well im sorry you feel that way but its my body then wait for her to calm down
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Well, it doesn't matter if you want to hear it or not. JUST WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE 18. Then you don't need your mom's consent. Think of it as a birthday present to yourself when you turn adult age. So what if you hate waiting? So does everyone else - like you're special in that aspect?
If your mother is that strict and you don't think she'll go for it, there’s nothing you can say to change her mind.
You can tell her all you want that you're a large girl - but to her, you're still her tiny baby and she knows that doing something like this will permanently affect the way your belly looks. When you get older and have babies, you'll have to take it out. That will leave a scar that will stretch as your belly does, then won't tighten back all the way.
So yeah, your mother does know more in life than you realize.
JUST WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE 18. Simple as that.
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uhm idk your mother personally
but with my parents, who arent interested in it at all
i just came out and said that i wanted it
tell her you've researched on it,
if she tries to tell you about infection
let her know you know how to keep it clean and that you'll take care of it
make her feel comfortable with the idea of it
the way it is with my mother (i'm 17) is if i want a piercing,
i tell her, she says no then we walk through a place like a mall
and walk by those stands with the body jewelry and show her the
jewelry that goes in that piercing i want, i show her a few times
it makes her consider it
then she warms up to the idea and concurs
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How about, “Hey Mother? You know how I was trying to look trashier? I think I found the perfect way to do it . . . and I'll pay for it 'n' everything.”
Sometimes Mother does know ideal. Wait till you're 18, hopefully you'll have it out of your system by then but if not, go ahead and do it. It's your money, your body and your reputation at that point.
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talk to her about it. calmly and maturely.
tell her what youve found out through your research and remind her that its a piercing, not a tattoo and can be taken out later on if u decide u dont want it.
more often than not parents think of a belly button piercing as a sexual thing. and they dont want it on their kids. understandable.
just be mature. reason. and negotiate.
good luck
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im trying to get my mother to agree to a lip piercing right now… i just started talking to her about how i saw someone with it and then i went on the internet a researched it for fun and now i care about it. she of course stated no. she reallly realllllly strict but now that its a couple months later she stated if i get good grades then i can. it takes a lot of pushing but its worth it!
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i got mine done a couple of weeks ago and im 16, i just didnt tell my mum about it and she wont find out…hopefully
you allowed to get it done at 16 qith ID (thats in the UK…)
so just go for it! and dont tell your mum.
or if your that worried about it just ask her, the worst she'll state is no
good luck!
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Just bring it up while you're eating dinner or something. Thats what I always do. All you can do to try and convince her is tell her everything you know about it and re assure her that you'll take care of it and not let it get infected.
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Speak to her and let her know that you have thought it out. Then pester her until she gives in. If all else fails just wait a few months until you turn 18 and go get it done. She’ll never know.
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Wait till your 18 years old then you can get it done with out mom.
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Just wait until you’re 18 and get it done without needing parental consent.
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Just wait until you’re 18. I don't suggest piercings, but if it's what you want, do it.
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Get a life