Why does my 17 month old daughter listen to everyone else but me?

I'm a SAHM for my 17 month old daughter, so I'm usually the one home with her all day so you would think that I'M the one she would listen to the most. But nope..

She listens to my husband, our close friends who she knows and is comfortable with…but most of the time she just ignores me. If she starts crying in the grocery store and my husband tells her to stop, she stops. If I tell her to stop she cries louder. At home I often have to raise my voice a little just to get her attention or to get her to stop doing something. Is there something I'm doing wrong? I don't do anything differently than my husband (that I'm aware of).

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She knows everything about you, she could possibly write a book about you, all your ticks, what buttons to push. It's perfectly normal. Because you are a sahm you’re with her each day and each minute, so she knows what she has the ability to do and what she has the ability to get away with. My son use to do the exact same thing! it was very frustrating, I felt like I just wasn't loved or appreciated enough. So I through in several blind spots, when he would throw a tantrum I did the exact opposite of what I would have normally done.
Example: (he was 2 1/2 years old at the time) Tantrum in an aisle in the store b/c I wouldn't let him grab everything he could off the shelves. I normally would have just tried to calm him down for fear of embarrassment over everyone's opinion on why this lady can't control her son, instead of calming him down I would abandon my grocery cart with food and all, walk him to my automobile and buckle him into his vehicle seat and tell him we’re not going back into the store until he learns how to behave. Sometimes my husband would take him to the vehicle, sometimes me, or sometimes both, when he was done crying we'd go back in, find our cart and continue on. We have to have abandoned our cart about 20 times, lol, but it worked eventually. As long as your consistent with the consequence.

So do something she wouldn't have already predicted, always use a firm no, and always mean it. Never give in because you feel bad, otherwise you'd have to start from square one and do things all over again. good luck.

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She's secure in the knowledge that you love her and she knows exactly what will happen when she does something with you. In other words she feels secure enough to push the limits with you farther than she'd push them with anyone else. Try to remember that she's just a baby and she's trying to learn about the world. She not doing it to be mean or hateful, she just needs to push limits to learn where they are.

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you have to be consistent while letting them know you love them. Don't explain why … at 17 months, a simple, “No” is all they need. Good luck…it just gets more challenging as they get older. I’ve a 13, 10, 9, and 6 year old and you would think I am speaking to the walls most of the time.

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Welcome to the world of toddlers don’t listen to their mums. I have a 2 year old and he rarely listens to me but as soon as his father or anyone else tells him to do something he does it. They always tests their mums and generally us mums spend more time with them.

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She knows you ideal and the others she really doesn't know all about and shes probably scared they will yell at her or something.

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I wish I could give you an answer, but my daughter is the EXACT same way!!! I'm starting to feel like a crazy person! What are we doing wrong?!?!?!
Just thought your misery might like a tiny company Good luck!

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My 14 month old is the exact same way. She'll stop crying for my husband, but she won't for me. She'll listen to him over me, and I to, am a SAHM. I'm getting stronger. My husband intimidates her, he has a louder, stronger voice. (She doesn't like loud sounds) So when he calls her name, she stops, instantly. But, I'm weak. I always feel bad about it, but he tells me that I'm her mommy, I'm suppose to be soft. Either way, for me, I've got to get stronger, because she isn't going to walk over me at 2 years old… I don't know what your situation is, what you would do differently… but that's me..

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I think it's because they know we love them unconditionally and that (weather we realize it or not) we have let them get away with things in the past. For example, when my husband puts our daughter to sleep he puts her directly in the crib and she'll fall asleep, rarely whimpering. If I try to do that, oh my goodness, she'd cry and cry because she knows I always get her. And I do, and I let her fall asleep on my bed and then I put her in her crib. Odviously she would cry at first with my husband but he stood his ground and she stopped because she knew, knows, it doesn't work with him. I can't. I'm sorry I can't. Mostly because I feel she needs love and may be afraid. Whenever she's at home and is going to do a no-no,she first looks at me, and still does it. She knows it's a no-no, looks at me, and still does it. Sometimes she'll take off running and my goodness she looks so cute when she runs that I just can't be angry anymore. I keep telling myself she's still too young for me to be strict, she's 17 months old…so…I'm beginning to set boundaries and rules and she's beginning to at least listen every now and then.