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i want her to have my baby. ive told her 1000's of times. she also wants to have a kid but doesnt want to try. we've had unprotected sex for about 6 years and she hasnt gotten pregnant. i believe she was pregnant before but ended up having a miscarriage after having a big fight. i dont know what to do. she says that it hurts too much to keep trying and coming up short.
im aware that there are tests out there that will tell us if we can have babys or not but im scared to take one. i dont want the doctor to kill my dreams.
please no negative feedback.
thanks.
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shes probably deeply hurt. give her time.
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if you have had unprotected sex for 6 years and have not had a baby you should both go to your doctors and get tested, there are several things they can do to help the natural process along.
Make sure you are as understanding as possible to her feelings, it is very very painful to a women to be trying this long with no results (I have been in a similar situation for sometime now) each month its like having everything taken away from you when your period comes and you find out you are not pragnant. so try and be aware of her feelings ..
good luck
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First of all you don’t miscarriage due to a massive fight, it doesn't work that way unless it was a physical fight.
Your ideal bet is to seek medical advice. Don't be afraid and don't look at it as a physician killing your dreams but to the contrary, in order to help with conception. There are many things in today and age that can help improve your chances, make sure you take full advantage of them all if that's what you both really want.
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you should do the test if you and your gf can have a baby or not. its not killing your dreams. its just telling you the truth. you could adopt a baby that ideal looks like you two. just take the test and find out. if either of you smoke, then you should stop. maybe then if you try you can have a baby. if your gf doesnt want to try give her some time, before you try again.
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I really think you should talk to a doctor. You might as well find out the problem. There’s a lways a solution. Whether the docot says artificial insemination, or something else he has the ability to do, or maybe if you can't help, then there’s always a surrgate, or adoption. There are so many kids and babies that need homes. I'm sure if you talked to a doctor you will be able to right out whats wrong if anything, and begin to chse the path right for you.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
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Better to know and be able to explore other avenues of child bearing if necessary. Technology today is wonderful. Hopefully all of your tests will come back OK, in which case I would tell you the best thing to do would be to “Stop Trying”! Things like this always happen when you least anticipate it! How well do you know “her”? She could be taking birth control without you knowing! I hope not, but it's happened before!
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Sorry to hear your situation. I would advice you to just go get tested both of you…because superior safe than sorry. It would be superior to know what you're in for and what are your options. The sooner you find out the superior because you can move on and decide what to do. Good luck and wish you the best.
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Do you smoke? Because me and my fiance NEVER used any protection or method of protection for 4 years. And like her, I always took tests only to be disappointed. As soon as we quit smoking- I got pregnant within a couple weeks after. And I’ve irregular periods. Thats just my experience. Also-women are usually the most fertile 14 days after the first day of their period. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
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find out the day of her period, then calculate 11days from that day, and have intercourse from the 11thday of her period(not the end of her period, the first day of her period) and keep busy until the 15thday, usually that’s when ovulation occurs, so good luck!
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i know your scared of the physicians, but at least you can begin the process and know where to begin
but having a baby is no joke either, its life changing
i state man up and go to the physicians
so your dreams came come TRUE!!!!!
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if i were you i'd just go take a test. i know that you don't want the doctor to “kill your dreams” but your just going to keep worrying about it
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try keeping up up with her ovulation dates it MT help
or even go to the drug store and buy a thermometer to check her temp. that will help to tell u if she can get preg. or not
or u can jus pray and god would help u though this….GOOD LUCK…
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dont try so hard if its ment to be it will happen have fun sex instead
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She needs to pay close attention to her cycles.A woman only ovulates 14-17 days BEFORE her period is due to start.Theres only 24/48 hours that she can get pregnant out of a entire month/cycle. Sometimes women get pain on either the right or left stated where their ovary is. Also when a women is ovulating she gets real clear,wet and stretchy stuff that comes out down there *sorry for tmi* Just trying to help. After sex she should stay laying down for 45 minutes and dont get up at all within that time frame!!! It takes 30-45 mintues for the sprem to meet the egg and get fertilized. It takes 7 days for the embryo to implant in the uterus.
Hope this helps. This info helped me get pregnant TWICE!!
I tried for 4 years and then someone gave me this info and I was pregnant with my son within 3 months!!!
Good luck!:)
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the results with your body are the same whether you know or not. wouldn't you take a tiny more comfort in knowing what you’re up against? there are only a few things that can be wrong with men when ttc. so it might not even be you … it could be her.
and there are a lot of fixable things, but you’ve to go to the doc to get them taken care of.
my husband and I’ve been trying 3 years, we have finally gotten to the realization this is not happening with out help and have made an appointment. we are going to have each test in the book. I would rather know, then not know…
Good luck!
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and if you beat her… maybe you should not be bringing a kid into this world. just a thought.
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I would go take a test. It will be heartbreaking but better to know and not get your hopes up every month. Also you both may be fine. You both might want one so bad that you’re thinking to much about it and just arent getting pregnant. It might sound bizarre but I speak with experience. Its hard to just say forget it and it will happen when it happens but when me and my husband finally said those exact words thats when we finally got pregnant. We tried for two years so its not enjoy it was a swift pregnancy. So try one of those and see what happens. Good luck!
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I know that going through tests brings on an unsettling feeling, and being afraid of the outcome is normal, but in your situation, I think it is in your best interest to have them done. Meaning, both you and her should be checked. There might or may not be an underlying problem. It's possible that your dreams won’t be crushed. Lots of things can be fixed, and there are drugs to help with becoming pregnant. It might just be something simple. You got to do, what you got to do, to get what you want. It's not always fun, and there can be many disappoinments, but finally having a child in the end, is well worth it. Always remember, nothing is ever set in stone, and nothing is ever guaranteed. Physicians are often proven wrong
I have the ability to comprehend her disappointment, and pain, and her feeling of being so discouraged. I'm sure you do too. You really need to sit and have a heart to heart with her and decide this between the two of you. I wish you the all the ideal.
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I don't want the Dr to kill your dreams, but it sounds like you should BOTH go to get check out….it could just be something minor that could easily be helped with medicine….if you don't get checked out, you won't know if somethign is wrong and you are just going to worry yourself and your partner too much to like that whole experience. In the mean time, don't think so much about trying and just have fun having sex….if it's meant to be it will happen….but please get checked out!
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If going to the Dr is too large a step to take right now, in most drug stores they’ve a male fertility kit…you could try that, not as a replacement to seeing a doctor but as a step in the right direction…You just have to refrain from sex for 2 days, then pleasure yourself into a cup and follow the directions….
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I know it must be scary, but you have to go to the physicians. It may just be that you’ve a low sperm count. In that case, the Dr. may have you ejaculate multiple times so that it adds up to the appropriate number. They have the ability to take a sperm and an egg and put it together directly. Not being able to get pregnant naturally is a far cry from infertility.
If you don't go, you may try for years only to go when it's too late to do anything about it. You'll end up finding out eventually.
In the mean time, a healthy diet, making sure you're both hydrated, and having sex multiple times a day might help. I would suggest getting a fertility monitor so that you can see when she is most fertile. When you find out the days, have multiple sex (3-5 times) that day to boost your sperm count.
Hope this was at least a little bit helpful and I wish you the best of luck with everything.
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How else is she supposed to try if she has been having sex with you for 6 years without protections? Sounds to me like that's the “good ol college try” !
You do need to see a physician to see if it is something that's wrong with you… it does not have to be the end of the world. The doctor could just tell you that they’re slow swimmers.
She needs to go to the physician too to see if she has the ability to even get pregnant.. that way you guys know EXACTLY what to do… maybe she needs hormone shots or change her diet or maybe she needs some other treatment.
If you want this baby so bad than you have to help her.
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First of all, she didn’t have a miscarriage because of a big fight. You don't miscarry because of arguments so don't beat yourself up over that. Yes there are MANY tests out there that can pinpoint problems with fertility. I have the ability to understand her not wanting to keep coming up short, but what I don't understand is why she wants to give up trying when you guys haven't even seen a fertility specialist yet. It can sometimes be a massive problem or one that cannot be fixed, but many times its something easy that they can easily help with so you can conceive. I would ask her if she would be at least willing to just go see a fertility specialist and see if they have the ability to find the problem and then you guys can decide if you want to pursue any further treatments to repair it. If she doesn't want to have herself checked out, then maybe you still can. Why don't you get a referral from your physician and go see a fertility specialist yourself. They have the ability to check your sperm count and run tests and a bunch of stuff to see if they have the ability to figure it out. If they find there’s nothing wrong on your end, then you've already done half the work for her. Then she will know there’s something wrong and that she’ll have to be the one to go in. I don't get why she won't just get checked out? She’ll never know unless she goes in. Like I said, it may be something very easy. I guess it depends on how badly she really wants a baby. Go see a fertility specialist, they’ll figure it out!
I thought I would add one more thing..go to Barnes and Noble or some other major book store and look at some books with her. Books like these might help
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksea…
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Definately go have a test, think of the cup as half full not empty. If you go and have a test now then you’ll know and either keep trying or go and get the procedure done in order to have the family you want. As for her saying it hurts than maybe she should have an appointment, sex shouldn't hurt all the time like that. Also I agree with what someone else stated above, smoking, drinking and stress effect concieving a child very much so instead of going at it for a baby just go at it because you love her!!! Good luck
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Too late- here's the negative comeback! STOP ASKING THOSE KIND OF QUESTIONS ON YAHOO! ANSWERS! YOU PEOPLE ARE DISGUSTING! SO STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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